The Question is what to inscribe, and when to have it engraved, on your husband-to-be’s wedding band. Wedding planning is all about the details. It’s decisions, decisions and more decisions from the time you say “YES!” until you say “I DO”. Trust me, I got married 7 short months ago, I know how easy it is to get bogged down by the minutia. Sometimes the minutia gets so thick that it’s hard to see the forest for all the trees (i.e., you walking down the aisle in the perfect dress just as you envisioned when the whole planning process began). If you’re feeling overwhelmed by wedding planning you’re not alone. It happens to the best of us. But, as Richard Carlson says, “don’t sweat the small stuff.” One “To Do” list item that often gets overlooked by many brides is having her groom’s wedding band inscribed. While many other things on your bridal checklist may seem vitally important – the flowers in your bouquet, the rhinestone clips for your hair, the h’or d’oeuvres to be served at the cocktail hour – what’s more important than your groom receiving his wedding band with a special message from you to him inside?
Yes, it’s one more decision you have to make. And yes, it will likely require you to make a few more trips to the jewelry store, but it’s nothing compared to the blood, sweat and tears he shed when he bought your ring. Take a moment (while you’re in the shower, sitting in traffic or running on the treadmill) to think of something creative and sentimental, something special that will make him smile when he reads it the first time and each time he re-reads it over the years.
And if your husband is anything like mine, he’s going to lose and mis-place his wedding band more times than you’ll care to count (and I haven’t even been married a year yet). Hopefully, the ring gods will be on his side and he’ll find it easily each time. Just as it took you a moment to get used to having a ring, his ring, on your ring finger; it’s going to take him some time to get used to wearing his too. Believe it or not, over time, he’ll become just as attached to his wedding band as you are to your engagement ring because of what it represents. A close friend of mine was knee-deep in details a month or so before her wedding, so much so that she decided to put off having her husband’s wedding band inscribed until after their wedding. Two years later and the inside of his wedding band is still bare because he’s become attached to it and doesn’t want to take it off.
The lesson here? Take a deep breath and make time to do the things things that matter. Your wedding day is going to be wonderful, rain or shine, because you’re marrying the man of your dreams. Take a moment to make his ring special, he’ll truly appreciate the extra effort.
Guest blogger, Kalyn Johnson is a fashion stylist who specializes in helping brides navigate the path to I DO stylishly and sanely. Recently married, Kalyn learned more about weddings than one has the right to keep to herself so she decided to share some of the nuggets she gathered along the way. Check out Kalyn’s blog, Wedding STYLE by Kalyn Johnson.
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